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How to Mind Your Own Business

Updated: Jun 2, 2023

As an American citizen I am personally tired of the media highlighting relationships that carry no true value to our individual realities, These articles are so subjective to their own agendas to exploit and dismantle a relationship that could indeed be a very healthy one.

***Only Harry and Meghan know what the exit from the Royal family really meant and what pressures it took off of their union to live a more civilized union what made sense to them.***

It’s as though no one can truly be happy if they aren’t living the lives we envisioned for them. Yet who are we to have an opinion on someone else’s relationship or lives? How about instead of being an expert on other people’s lives you find the time to mind your own business? You may get offended when that term is thrown out there, however, let’s get to nit and grit of what these words really mean.

Mind Your Own Business

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Mind= the element of a person that enables them to be aware of their world and their experiences, to think, and to feel; the faculty of consciousness and thought

............Get some paper to write and #understand these definitions for yourself….........

Mind = a person’s intellect

Your=belonging to or associated with the person or people that the speaker is addressing

Own= used with a possessive to emphasize that someone or something belongs or relate to the person mentioned

Business= work that has to be done or matters that have to be attended to for you and your world

When you mind your own #business you are simply paying attention to all of the things that pertain to you and your purpose.

Purpose= the reason for which something is done, created, or for which something exists.

What is YOUR Business=

1. Your spirit (your personal relationship with God)

2. Your mind (what you allow to cross through your cornea; tv programs; news, reality tv, movies, etc. Remember. your eyes are the gateway to your soul)

3. Your heart (forgiveness, unconditional love, no judgement)

4. Your emotions (your response to tragedy, fools, liars)

5. Your investments (time, resources, money).

If you have breath in your body, you have a purpose to live for. There’s a quote that says “the mind is a terrible thing to waste”and it is as relevant today as it was many decades ago.

You are the most important aspect to life that will never be duplicated.

Why would you waste any of your valuable time meddling around in your mind with negative tv shows and lousy media that has nothing to do with what you were born to do. You were blessed out of the millions of sperm that was shot in your mother’s vagina to hit the egg and survive.

This is the survival of the fittest and I believe its your mind that needs to stay strong.

Question For Ya...

Do you honestly believe you were born to mind the business of people that will probably never take care of you mentally, emotionally, and most importantly spiritually?

I think not!!

***Now mind you, our commission as Christians or Believers is to love our neighbor as you love yourself however the reality is 99.99% of this world really don’t know how to truly love ourselves. We love only ourselves based on what was perpetuated growing up and our past hurts.

***Nevertheless that’s a topic for another time.***

Back to the meat and potatoes.

Do you know what your purpose is? Why you were given this life?

Well if you have not a clue I believe this is the time you put your distractions down and it’s time to do some soul searching.

Let's paint a picture.

We are in the year 2020.

The Number 2020 is known as hindsight.

Hindsight= understanding of a situation or event only after it has happened or developed

We are in the year 2020.

Close your eyes and imagine what your life was like between the year 2010-2019…

Who were you? What have you learned? What relationships didn’t work out and why?

Who did you lose in death? Has your body type changed? Do you consider your health important? What type of foods do you eat? What type of spender were you (emotional spender, binge spender, were you in debt) and how do you deal with your finances now?

—- I want you to write out your answers.——

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Toxic behavior doesn’t just end. It is attached to some part of an experience that caused you to react negatively and then it stayed with you. You never forgave someone, you stopped trusting people. To trust man is something even the Bible says not to do in the first place.

Micah 7:5-8

Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms; for the son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother, the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man's enemies are the men of his own house. But as for me, I will look to the Lord; I will wait for the God of my salvation; my God will hear me. Rejoice not over me, O my enemy; when I fall, I shall rise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord will be a light to me.

Was your past relationships unfulfilling and did it leave a void? That’s probably because you went into the relationship half full or on one fourth thinking that this wonderful nitwit would be the one to make you whole. When the reality is; you attracted who you are and guess what hurt people, hurt people.

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Imagine: You enter a situation-ship happy to have someone only for your toxic behaviors of jealousy, insecurities, and incompetence to arise from the surface because, let’s be real, its been there all alone. You just assumed your banging clothes, caked faces, and Brazilian booties were going to be your lift; what makes you shine/what makes you who you think you need to be. When the reality is, you are as empty and frustrated then you were 5 years ago. You got advice from your friends and your intuition to, “slow down and be single for a while,” but you chose not to Mind Your Own Business.

Let’s take inventory of your relationships and how they effect your life and perception of one self.

Now lets take all those relationships away and its only you. Your thoughts, the things you say to yourself when no one is around and the way you view yourself.

Is that a beautiful portrait of the depth of yourself or is it like burnt doo doo on a stick?

Answer this one honestly...

=-=-Are you still taking notes? Take some time to answer some of these questions…-=-=

Its okay to be honest. Are you the person when you’ve done something accidental and you’re in front of some you say oh I’m so clumsy or I’m sorry I’m not all there today. What about when you’re by yourself and you say oh I’m dumb for that one. Well guess what we are all human and we won’t always do everything perfectly. So stop putting yourself down verbally. The bible say’s in

Proverbs 18:21 Death and Life are in the power of the tongue; and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

Meaning that whatever you say will either give life or it will give death and what ever you indulge in more will come forth increasingly.

So, why choose to talk down to yourself?

Is it truly a reflection of how you see yourself or is it something that you heard growing up?

Just because you heard it growing up don't mean you need to live by it. You are an adult that deserves to articulate an opinion about yourself based off your belief in yourself and not based on other people's opinions. Do yourself a favor for this moment on... Divorce yourself from the opinion of other people!!! They don't deserve any power.

This is also another form of “Minding your Business”. Learning from you and your past to never repeat these cycles of verbal abuse in this new decade.

Let me put you up on game; the decade hasn’t even started.

When you learned your numbers in pre school what number did you learn about first?

One (1). So I believe 2020 is the year to face everything from the past, head on to have the peace and prosperity you deserve going into this new decade. That begins when you “Mind Your Own Business”.

Ways you can effectively "Mind Your Own Business"

  1. Pray on a consistent bases and Read Your Bible daily. It goes hand and hand.

Don't go to #God wining either.

He already know what is going to happen before you do.

Just thank him for the grace to help you make it; day by day.

When you go to God with faith; trusting and fully believing he will help you through your obstacles he will open up the door to peace and abundance.

Philippians 4:6-7

6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus

2. Learn how to budget your resources and your time wisely.

Now, I can't express this point enough. I've written about it in my past blog

"Tips to Success Change Your Mind, Change Your Life"


It don't matter what they are doing with your funds. Be obedient to God and he'll take care of everything else. TRUST!

Pay YOURSELF! Save it.

Tithe your time. We are given 24 hrs everyday. 2 hr and 40 mins belongs to God, the orphans, the widows, the elder, and the less fortunate.

3. Get in shape for you

Eat correctly- (Live/Dead/Live)= (Salad/Fish/Fruit)= (Appetizer/Main/Dessert) You get it!

Stretch/Exercise- I suggest 10-20 mins of vigorous sets of exercise including 10 mins of cardio to close out your workout is perfect.

Drink plenty of water; one gallon a day. You body is made up of 60% water.

So stay hydrated not only for your organs sake, but for your hair, nails, and lips.

Your health is your wealth. You only have one temple, Love on it daily.

4. Move in silence

Moving in silence is a phrase that is thrown around all the time but do you really know what that means?

And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the #vision and make it plain, the he may run that readeth it. Has 2:2

This scripture should be incorporated in your daily activities.

Plan and move


Plan and talk.

This includes.... EVERYTHING.

From running errands to traveling to planning your day. Have you ever made a list a things to do for the day and someone ends up calling you to see what you're doing for the day and you tell them your plans. Next thing you know you're waking up from a senior citizens nap and nothing on this to do list gets done

The less you speak the better

This is most important when it comes to your purpose and your vision God blesses you with. Not everyone will be happy for you when you start living in your purpose and being blessed.

Some won't even understand it and that's fine. It's not meant for them to understand it.

You got a choice: Support, be happy for and with me or get to stepping!

5. Live in the moment

-Time is a commodity that you can never get back

We are blessed with 24 hours in a day. Every moment counts. So don't let people waste your unlimited minute talking time about nonsense. Have purposeful conversations.

-Capture your moments and scrapbook.

Not all of your memories should be digital. Do your self a favor and put pictures from your phone onto a flash drive and print them.

Give your children's children memories for the next generations.

My Best Friend

My fabulous mom in Sept 69'. I miss you every day. #RIP

Love on your family

You only have one and time is just passing. No communication prevents some unresolved situations not to be healed and connections not mended.

We are all we have. There should be no divide in anyway. Start forgiving others and forgive yourself for allowing bitterness, strife, jealousy, anger, contention, gossip, manipulation, and pride to deter you from loving on your loved ones.

6. Live a righteous life.

Righteous- morally right or justifiable; virtuous

You know right from wrong. If you have to question if something is wrong, you already know the answer.

Live with integrity

Live in truth

Do what you know is right even when no one is watching.


7. Love others as you love yourself

Inventory check:

In what ways do you love yourself?

How can you transpose those actions to loving others w/o judgement?

And who are we to judge other's actions and how they live their lives?

When you judge someone it puts you in a position of non fault as if you can do no wrong.

These question takes vulnerability because you're still learning how to love yourself correctly and no one honestly wants to admit when they messed up or if they need help. Believe me when I tell you that pride is a dangerous teacher. Don't learn the hard way.

There's no better time then right now to, "Mind Your Own Business."

I pray you'll find solutions in the truth based on facts and not based on your feelings.

Let Go of all that may hinder you and rise through this life by the victory that's within.

Much Love,

Cande Rivers

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